10 Things You Should Not Say to a Guy
Ladies, if you want to have
a successful dating life, certain phrases should
never come out of your glossy lips. Here they
are:
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him
when you see him. If he wants to see you again,
he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time
for anyone that doesn’t have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one
answer to this question: Because he didn’t want
to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why didn’t
you want to call me?” Who knows!! There could
be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn’t be sitting
around wondering why. You should be out dating
lots of different guys and not worrying about
ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to put all your eggs
into one basket, because if they break, it’s a
big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know
where he was, he’d tell you. What you’re really
asking is, “Where you with another female that
you like better than me?” Your insecurity is showing,
my dear. If anything, he should be wondering where
you were.
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in
the hopes that he’ll say it back, but what if
he doesn’t? You’ll be devastated and probably
feel foolish. Saying “I love you” is not going
to speed things up if he’s not ready to say it
back. So just cool it, and let him be the first
to say it when he’s ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he’s
not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past
is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) with
these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really
is bliss.
6. I’M PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the
birth control choices available, there is no excuse
for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be.
You should be using something and he should use
a condom, every time.
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if
that’s your attitude. Guys want someone fun and
easy to be with, not someone that’s constantly
worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions
will tell you where it’s going. If it’s going
somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll
know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent
of, “Go to the principal’s office”. Guys know
it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so they’re
already on the defense. If you need to discuss
something, just casually bring it up when the
both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to
him when he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch
tv!
9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally
uncalled for and un-lady like. If there’s an issue,
be mature enough to discuss it when you’re calm.
If he’s breaking up with you, reacting with anger
may make you feel better temporarily, but it’s
best to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll wonder
why you’re so cool about it and that may make
him re-think his decision. Always be pleasant
during a break up. Do you want to be known as
the girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up
with her?? I didn’t think so.
10. I DON’T TRUST YOU. What you’re actually
saying is, “You need to step up your game, because
I can see you’re up to something.” If he is up
to something, he’ll just become even sneakier.
Better to think smart and act dumb-it’ll be easier
to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist,
lecturer and host of the TV Show "The Art of Love".
With over 20 years experience on the relationship
market, Lucia has dated men of all nationalities
in six cities, four countries and two continents.
Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate
to dispense relationship advice – after all, in
almost every dating dilemma she has been there,
done that and lived to tell about it.
For more articles or to ask Lucia a question,
go to: http://www.theartoflove.net
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