10 Things You Should Not Say to a Guy
Ladies, if you want to have
a successful dating life, certain phrases should
never come out of your glossy lips. Here they
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? Youíll see him
when you see him. If he wants to see you again,
heíll call. If not, next. You donít have time
for anyone that doesnít have time for you.
2. WHY DIDNíT YOU CALL? Thereís only one
answer to this question: Because he didnít want
to!!! What youíre really asking is, ďWhy didnít
you want to call me?Ē Who knows!! There could
be a lot of reasons, but you shouldnít be sitting
around wondering why. You should be out dating
lots of different guys and not worrying about
ONE guy. Donít be so quick to put all your eggs
into one basket, because if they break, itís a
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know
where he was, heíd tell you. What youíre really
asking is, ďWhere you with another female that
you like better than me?Ē Your insecurity is showing,
my dear. If anything, he should be wondering where
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - Youíre saying it in
the hopes that heíll say it back, but what if
he doesnít? Youíll be devastated and probably
feel foolish. Saying ďI love youĒ is not going
to speed things up if heís not ready to say it
back. So just cool it, and let him be the first
to say it when heís ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as heís
not sleeping with her now, who cares? The past
is gone. Donít torture yourself (and him) with
these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really
6. IíM PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the
birth control choices available, there is no excuse
for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be.
You should be using something and he should use
a condom, every time.
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if
thatís your attitude. Guys want someone fun and
easy to be with, not someone thatís constantly
worrying about the future. His actions or non-actions
will tell you where itís going. If itís going
somewhere, youíll know it. If itís not, youíll
know it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent
of, ďGo to the principalís officeĒ. Guys know
itís not going to be a fun conversation, so theyíre
already on the defense. If you need to discuss
something, just casually bring it up when the
both of you are relaxed. Donít try to talk to
him when heís tired, stressed or trying to watch
9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, itís totally
uncalled for and un-lady like. If thereís an issue,
be mature enough to discuss it when youíre calm.
If heís breaking up with you, reacting with anger
may make you feel better temporarily, but itís
best to remain calm and act unfazed. Heíll wonder
why youíre so cool about it and that may make
him re-think his decision. Always be pleasant
during a break up. Do you want to be known as
the girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up
with her?? I didnít think so.
10. I DONíT TRUST YOU. What youíre actually
saying is, ďYou need to step up your game, because
I can see youíre up to something.Ē If he is up
to something, heíll just become even sneakier.
Better to think smart and act dumb-itíll be easier
to get the evidence you need to confirm your suspicions.
Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, columnist,
lecturer and host of the TV Show "The Art of Love".
With over 20 years experience on the relationship
market, Lucia has dated men of all nationalities
in six cities, four countries and two continents.
Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate
to dispense relationship advice Ė after all, in
almost every dating dilemma she has been there,
done that and lived to tell about it.
For more articles or to ask Lucia a question,
go to: http://www.theartoflove.net