Tips Your Spouse is Having an Affair
Some of these signs of a
cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others
are tell tale signs that commonly appear with
a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is
no copyright. Feel free to forward to those who
might be interested. But please don't change anything.
Signs of a Cheating Spouse:
1) You find birth-control
pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had
2) Mutual friends start
acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about
what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband
or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice
4) Sets up a new e-mail
account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in
the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns
in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and
begins a rigorous workout program.
7) She buys a cell phone
and doesn't let you know.
8) He sets up a separate
cell phone account that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband
carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all
incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming
e-mails when they used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory,"
asking if you are being true to him, usually out
13) Raises hypothetical
questions such as, "Do you think it's possible
to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new
15) He insists the child
seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating wife stops
wearing her wedding ring.
17) Has a sudden desire
to be helpful with the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches
or bruises on his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try
new love techniques.
20) He/she fairly suddenly
stops having sex with you.
21) He/she suddenly wants
more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot
of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay
23) Picks fights in order
to stomp out of the house.
24) You find out by accident
he or she took vacation day or personal time off
from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest
in a different type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers
are uncomfortable in your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation
with his or her appearance.
28) Spends an excessive
amount of time on the computer, especially
after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because
he just ate at his mistress's house and
had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got
30) Your spouse is away
from home, either nights or on trips, more than
31) His/her clothes smell
of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see
lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money
being deposited into your checking account drops
33) You find items of intimate
apparel or other small gift-type items that you
did not give your spouse.
34) Your spouse seems less
comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily
moved to anger.
35) You get calls where
the caller hangs up when he or she hears your
36) He/she loses attention
in the activities in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut
feeling) tells you that something is not right.
38) He/she has a definite
change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
39) She uses a low voice
or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
40) She has a "glow" about
41) Atypical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the
43) She sleeps with her
purse by the bed.
44) She goes to the store
for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you that you
can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale sign of
a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question
in the first place.
Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has
helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades
heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and
survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com