Valentine Ideas without breaking the bank...
Hearts, romance, love, lips, roses and other valentine related
digital designs on branded items. Branded romantic items include
t-shirts, sweatshirts, mouse pads, magnets, stickers, mugs,
tote bags, bumper stickers, buttons and more.
can start with a simple hi or a wink. It begins
in a boardroom or a chatroom. One spouse says,
"What's the problem? We're only friends."
The other spouse can't believe the reassurances.
So the jealousy builds and a wedge is driven between
partners. Sometimes nothing really is going on,
and sometimes an affair is in progress. It's only
a matter of time.
So how can you tell if your spouse is a potential
cheater? How can you stop a relationship from
becoming romantic outside of your marriage? Here
are five topics to think about before determining
if your marriage is in the danger zone.
1. Secrecy: Do you feel as though your
partner could be telling you more about his or
her new friend? Or do you hide the details of
your platonic relationship from your spouse? If
so, why? It's best not to keep secrets from your
partner, even if you think he or she will be hurt,
angry or jealous. If you want a successful relationship,
trust and honesty is the one factor for marriage
that should not be compromised.
2. Displaced Trust: Is information that should
only be shared between husband and a wife, shared
outside of the relationship? Topics like sexual
intimacy, irreconcilable differences, personal
finances, and detailed accounts of your partner's
shortcomings are best left within the constructs
of your marriage relationship.
3. Comparing: Does your spouse compare you
to friend(s) of the opposite sex often? Or do
YOU feel as though your spouse could improve in
the areas that your special friend excels? Comparing
once or twice may not be a problem, but habitual
comparison is a warning sign.
4. Time Management: What type of time do
you spend together as a married couple? Is it
mainly dutiful, like paying bills or going to
conferences for the kids? Or do you actually date--
one-on-one, no kids, family or friends around?
If not, and you find yourself, or your partner,
engaged in date like activities outside of your
relationship, stop it. Either invite your spouse
or don't do it anymore. Coffee talk can turn to
pillow talk in the blink of an eye.
5. Attraction: Do you feel as though your
spouse like the way his/her special friend looks?
Are you attracted to the way your friend looks
or the way he/she does something? If so, address
this issue with your partner and then try to refocus
your attention on each other, rather than the
If three to five of these topics need to be addressed
in your marriage, I urge you to get professional
help either from your religious leader or from
a professional counselor.
Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor and Publisher
(launching November 2005). Her work has appeared
on iVillage.com, BibleResourceCenter.com, and
in numerous other printed publications.
Currently, she lives with her husband, daughter
and son and is writing a book on marriage and
relationships which will be published Spring 2006.
Love & Romance
Let Romance Motivate Us
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We drink water because we are thirsty. We do everything
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