Online Dating Tips
Finding your soul
mate online is a wondrous thing; however, there
is the potential for danger. While you have access
to a wide variety of people, you also have the
impending complication of meeting those who are
not what they seem to be--there are some tips
of the trade, though, to help you become more
discerning with your choices. These tips can help
you stay safe and stay away from men and women
who are not what you’re looking for.
Tip One: Start Slowly.
There are all kinds of people on the Love Empire;
not all of these people, however, will be right
for you. Take your time--if you meet someone and
start up a conversation, proceed with discretion.
The person at the other end may not be who they
claim to be; take your time and watch for inconsistencies
or odd behavior. If something bothers you, simply
walk away. Do not rush into any relationship without
Tip Two: Protect Your Identity.
One of the benefits of dating online is that you
can get to know someone based solely upon their
personality and not deal with the more social
conscious real world. It is up to you to decide
when and how you reveal who you really are--be
careful, however. If someone receives your personal
information, they could use it against you. If
a member tries to pressure you into giving out
your last name, email address, home address, phone
number, place of work or any other identifying
information, then walk away.
Tip Three: Use Common Sense.
When speaking to someone through the Love Empire,
do not throw good judgment away simply because
this is an online service. What may sound wonderful
on the screen can be masking something not so
wonderful in reality. Use caution and do not fall
in love with the first profile you read. Take
your time and go through all of your potential
choices. Then, after you’ve researched enough,
go from there. It is a common occurrence for people
to “fall in love” after only one conversation.
Do not do this! Retain your common sense and view
online dating as you view real-world dating. You
do not have to love every profile you read.
Tip Four: Request A Photo.
If you meet someone, chat with them, and see the
beginning of a relationship forming, then you
might want to request a photo. Often, this can
tell you more about the person than any email
or instant message. First of all, it can keep
them from lying about their looks; secondly, you
will know if you’re attracted to them in the physical
sense; finally, if they continually refuse to
send a photo, there might be a reason other than
embarrassment. Proceed carefully.
Tip Five: Pay Attention.
This is, possibly, the most important tip you
could follow. In an email, any one can sound wonderful--in
real life, it’s much more difficult. When you
are becoming involved with someone on the Love
Empire, watch for ‘red flags’, or odd behavior.
For example, if during an online session, your
date suddenly becomes angry or aggressive toward
you and then, won’t explain why, you should take
this into consideration. If one sentence could
upset him/her in such a way, it might be cause
to worry. Also, pay attention to any attempts
to pressure or control you. For instance, if your
date is constantly making demeaning comments about
you, there is a strong chance that he/she is trying
to manipulate you into feeling inferior; therefore,
you become an easier target to control. Finally,
watch out for inconsistencies with information
that your date provides you or evasive answers
to questions. If your date displays any of the
following problems, it would be well-advised to
reconsider your relationship:
1. He/she provides inconsistent information about
age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession,
2. He/she refuses to speak to you on the phone
after you have established an
3. online relationship; or, he/she will only speak
on a strangely specific
5. He/she will not answer any direct questions
about themselves. They will
6. either give you a vague answer or will simply
turn the question back to you.
7. He/she will only provide photos of large groups
of people, making it
8. impossible for you to find them.
Online dating can be an exciting and fulfilling
part of your life; just remember
to follow these tips and act accordingly.
About the author:
Frank Duru is the author of many different articles.
His works concentrate much on dating related information,
such as "African
Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Religious Dating
- Traditions and Values” The list goes on!